MY COLORFUL FAMILY
It has been said that Southern
politicians are known for being a colorful sort of people. Southern
politician's families even more so. Then why should anyone be
surprised if my family looked like the 8 box of Crayola Crayons
(that's counting the dogs). We were different, brilliant and non
toxic, and oh, so much fun.
My dad held the trump card of the
raconteur, feeling most at home with an audience around him, telling
homespun tale after tale. Never mind if the tale grew in size and
proportion each and every time it was repeated. If it caused
attention being brought to him then the better the tale. Daddy loved
an audience. He rose from the ranks of the poorest share croppers
son to work for the common good. He honed his skills of honesty and
hard work, meshed with a clear understanding of every man's problems
and dreams. He had a big generous heart and a fair dealing hand
which characterized his efforts in the strange world of Louisiana
politics. The most important person was the ones he was currently
talking to. He loved having people around him. Such a man was my
father.
My mother was articulate, literary and
well trained for public life. She required lots of alone time.
Being a minister's daughter, she had lived her entire life “in a
fish bowl” and was well suited for being scrutinized by everyone,
relishing the idea of surprise as to their evaluations. Mother felt
drawn to the man who had never known the genteel ways she had been
taught, perhaps exercising her independence by rebelling against the
tight reins her parents had kept on her and perhaps due to her
idealistic hope of refining the rough edges of this common man.
As a young couple, they were perfectly
suited or so one thought. On the one hand, there was the idealistic
country boy out to conquer the world, who had never used a telephone
until the day he arrived at college. On the other hand there was the
naive young lady who was used to Sunday socials, attending plays and
concerts and teas in the warm summer afternoons, or sneaking off to
swim on a Sunday afternoon, a known sin for a preacher's daughter.
My daddy was a home body, he had never traveled except during the war
and really didn't care much for it. Mother, lived to travel. She was
used to it since Methodist preachers moved every three years back
then. No two backgrounds could ever have been more different. Yet,
there was a commonality between these two. Both of them had a keen
sense of humor and playfulness; both were strong willed, though
mother had been trained to acquiesce to the male in the family. Both
loved to talk at the same time.
Actually one never really listened to the other, but continued to
talk over and above the other, succeeding to communicate his or her
wishes only by endless repetitions. To this competing conversation
at the dinner table, we four children added our voices creating a
cacophony intolerable for most, but the norm for us.
My parents believed
in entertainment and creativity. Our life was one adventure after
another. For instance, when I was around nine or ten mother decided I
should experience a train ride and a plane ride. So the two of us
went down to the train station on lower Third and boarded a train to
New Orleans where we spent hours exploring Magazine street and the
antique stores. We went to Brennan's for a meal, white tablecloths
and napkins, jazz music in the background, and fine silverware. A
sharp contrast to the rowdy meals we had at home. We spent the night
at a hotel on Canal Street. The next day was spent at the Audubon
Zoo after some beignets at Cafe du Monde. She even took me down
Bourbon Street and told me about the evils that lurked behind those
doors while laughing at the drunken characters we met on the street.
The next day we boarded a plane and flew home. I was now a man of
the world, I thought.
Another
time, while I was staying with daddy in Baton Rouge he took me to a
bar/restaurant downtown just a block from the Heidelberg Hotel. He
said I should learn about Beatniks. These were young people who
were part of a social group in the 1950s and early 1960s that
rejected the traditional rules of society and encouraged people to
express themselves through art. We sat at a back corner table, wine
for daddy and a coke for me, listening to the young people. Some
played their guitar, others read a poem. One sang a song of
rebellion. After each performance the fingers would snap in
approval. The room was dark with wine bottles as candle holders and
black lights around the black walls. Everyone there wore black
clothing with berets or scarves, Most everyone was smoking. I,
being naïve like mama thought they were only cigarettes. Daddy
didn't think the smoke would be a problem since we wouldn't be
staying for long. I was fascinated by these people that I had heard
of but never seen. I might have even dressed the same except that I
owned no black clothing. Blue jeans and cowboy boots with a black
shirt just wasn't right.
Once mama caught
some of us using crayons on the walls in the hall. There was some
fussing, and we had to clean up after ourselves but soon we found
that she had cleared out a closet in the middle of that hall and
declared that it would be our place to be creative. There was the
space where the clothes should be and overhead that were two large
spaces that used to house suitcases. We could climb up and lie down
in those cubbyholes. We wrote all sorts of things on those walls as
well as colored and drew to our hearts content.
We made hideouts in
hay lofts and read books away from prying eyes. We climbed trees and
hung by our knees on the top most branches. We used slingshots and
china berries and had wars with each other. We made rafts in newly
created drainage ditches and floated around the area. Our only rule
was to be home for supper and before dark. Yes, our family is
different, brilliant, non toxic and fun.
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